5 Safeguards To Avoid Heartbreak!

5 Safeguards To Avoid Heartbreak!

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Heartbreak never feels good to anyone.   Getting over someone can take an emotional toll. Just ask Anyone who endured the aftermath of losing someone they love because of rejection.

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We are talking about heartbreak caused by someones decision to walk away from the relationship. People that pass away or are lost due to medical or drug use that inhibits their ability to reason, is not who I am referring to. So, how do you combat heartbreak? for some a quick rebound is handy. For others, guarding their feelings, and not allow themselves to be open seems to avoid heartbreak.

When your self-esteem takes a hit it’s important to remind yourself of what you have to offer (as opposed to listing your shortcomings).

Just look at these 5 safeguards that I have used and see why they work! 

  1. Don’t seek blame. We all know what the blame game is. Why did this happen? You immediately start to dissect everything they did wrong. safeguard tip  1. * Look to seek input, ask what happened? say things like,  I’d appreciate your feedback as to what didn’t work? I am working on bettering myself. Then, if there is some helpful input that the person gives, take it! don’t let the accusations start to fly unless that is the cause of the break-up. i.e. you have evidence of bad behavior.
  2.  Move On. I know some think this means not letting the sheets cool, and getting with someone else pronto. That is not what I am getting at.

dating-again Safeguard tip 2. *Join a class, club and get social again. I’m pretty sure the person you were with was taking up time that may now feel like a void. Filling time with healthy activities helps with the pain. Not to mention the healthy endorphins from exercise.

3. Keep a Journal. Self-talk is key when moving on. I have kept journals since I was very young. I wish I could find some of them today to realize that the pain would pass and I would end up okay. self-inflicting the pain and hurt with negative self-talk is the worst. Heartbreak safeguard tip 3. * know what you say about yourself is what you will manifest. Make sure to vent in that journal about everything that bugged you and all the pain it caused. Then ask and admire your ability to feel and have emotions. You will start to feel good like that chapter is over but look at all the blank pages you have left. 

4. Cry-I know this one sounds weird but, I mean get a really good cry out and then,  take a Tylenol for a headache and physical pain. Treat it like a real loss and grieving period. Recognize the stages of grief. It not only detoxifies you but it feels good to sit with a big bowl of ice cream watch Netflix sappy movies and imagine none of this heartbreak ever happened. Safeguard tip 4. * know that the tears will fade away and every day the heartbreak becomes less painful. Not only will you literally be all cried out but, you will want to start watching comedies again and hanging out with friends.

5. Dream Big– If you lack imaginative or simply pessimistic this might be hard. So after most heartbreaks I have had, I learned how wonderful it was to get to know more about myself and what things I wanted. Be smart about your goals. Know what makes you happy, dream it and then watch it come to fruition. Take Princess of Sussex Meghan Markle. She dreamed big and envisioned what she wanted from a young age. Then to no surprise, it came true.

Don’t let anything or anyone make you feel vulnerable about things. Safeguard tip 5.* Did you know peoples energy is picked up by others? How do you think most men are able to spot the girl who is feeling too sad and desperate. That energy attracts the wrong type of man or woman. One likely to exploit your weak state. Keep a positive mindset. Wear a smile regardless of how you feel inside. Then allow yourself to dream of the perfect person.

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